“Rejection is Protection and Redirection”

Goodness I wish we knew this earlier! Honestly, we could could save ourselves SO much pain, heartache, anxiety and sleepless nights not agonizing over why we were “rejected.” How many times in your life have you been rejected only to wallow in self pity, go into a tailspin of depression and sulk into the comfort of your toxic coping mechanism? Yep…OVER HERE!!!! 🙋‍♀️ DING! DING! DING! It’s devastating to say the least to feel any sort of rejection and when we are unaware that many times, we get those rejections as a way to protect us from ‘something’ we may be completely oblivious to in the moment, it makes no sense and we are upset and hurt.

However, it is time to reveal the big truth of the Universe that rejection IS protection AND redirection.

What gets in the way many times is our egos, our wounds, our goals and dreams. We believe we know what’s best for us. We are truly the ones who know what we want. And let’s get real here, we know what we want, when we want it and how we want it. Period. And when these things we want fall apart, never come to fruition or sadly break our hearts we get totally blindsided and fall to pieces or become angry why we were rejected. It makes sense and I’m not denying that it hurts in any way but what I can say is that when I have not got the message from this rejection, it caused me further upset, hurt and anger and far, far more stress to continue pursuing it rather than just surrendering and reassessing what is best, what I’m being called to do and where I’m being lead to go.

I will be the first to admit that I am stubborn. I want things my way and when they don’t go my way I try even harder. Ugh! It pains me to admit this to you but I’m on a quest for radical honesty here and this has been a downfall for me in my life. It’s almost like when you have those moments of desiring something but then once you can have it, or be with a person or achieve that goal or intention, something just feels…off! You may not be able to explain it but you just know, it ain’t for you. Well, I’ve been the dumb one who has boldly said I want something or someone at points in my life and because I made an ‘agreement’ with myself, I stuck to it. Even when my intuition was telling me to, “Run Like Hell!” No way! I’m sticking to this! I’ll show my intuition who’s boss. And holy hell I wish I listened the first time. And when I go crawling back to my intuition as it sits upon their throne, one leg draped over the side of the chair as they file their nails, an eyebrow raises to look at me as I sheepishly come to it asking for help. “Oh, so NOW you want me.” I smile in a pleading way shrugging my shoulders. “I’ve seriously fucked this up far worse than I ever expected. Why didn’t I listen in the first place?”

Because I didn’t know the real secret and my ego and pride got in the way. Not to mention those deep core wounds that lovingly still peer their head up showing me that it’s them running the show and not my higher self that’s wise and strong, is tapped into the blueprints of life and can easily guide me to do what’s the least harmful yet allow me to learn lessons and elevate. Yeah, those buggers took the wheel. It’s a process to recognize this and take note when you feel compelled to act of out fear rather than from alignment.

What we begin to see after sometime is the gift of it all. How rejection was protection and a guide to redirection. There’s only so long you can fight for something that wasn’t meant for you. You can try to hang on, cling and continue pushing but there will be a breaking point when it all falls apart and you must give in to the loss. Sometimes this could be failing a class, a house sale falling through, a break-up with someone you thought you’d be with forever or that job you didn’t get that you thought was “perfect” for you. There’s always a reason why these things happen and later on you tend to find out why. Usually it’s because something so much better was waiting for you. Not just better but far grander in the master plan of your life.

It was the process of trust and surrender that ultimately brings you to the understanding that what is meant for you will never pass you by.

So the next time you are faced with that rejection, thank the universe for it and know it’s because you were meant for something so much more!

XO, Robin