Let Your Old Story Die
How often do you play your old story in your head? Maybe it’s not just a story but old thoughts, beliefs, phrases said to yourself or by someone else you replay over and over again making you feel…well, for lack of a better word, shitty. I find that this happens all too often to us. All of us. I don’t know a single person who can escape this nightmare. We get the hook and then we ruminate. Sometimes it’s only a few seconds and others it can be a daily battle.
While it’s very challenging to let the old go, I know by personal experience that when you change your story from what was to what can possibly be, there’s a freedom that occurs. It’s like a taste you just don’t want to stop taking bites of because you savour the moment, noticing all the different ingredients of the creation that made it so damn good!
I used to tell myself I wasn’t good enough. Maybe not every day but it definitely showed up in my subconscious a whole lot. Guess what happens when you keep saying negative words and limiting beliefs over and over? The Universe does this incredible thing! It literally brings you more experiences and more people who support this. Yep, in every single way. We wonder why we keep having these moments that suck, people who don’t love, value or appreciate us in the way we need and we start to get this victim mindset that perpetuates getting more and more shittiness.
“Seriously?!
“Why me?”
”Why does this keep happening?”
I know, I get it. It does suck and I am sorry but this is the time to change it all.
I work in energy so I didn’t start to really comprehend what was happening until I broke it down to an energetic level and the way the universe works.
”You attract what you are.”
”Thoughts create things.”
The Law of Attraction is a real thing. You can use it to your advantage or to your demise. It’s up to you. I just started recognizing that things I used to fear the most showed up. Why? Because I was worried and scared that they would happen and sure enough they did. Even when I believed I chose a person who would never betray me, they ended up doing that exact thing. It’s like you want to control a person/situation, holding on too tight for fear they will hurt you and it backfires horribly. It’s the ignorance of the surrender that drives them to do exactly what would hurt you the most.
So, here’s a suggestion that worked for me, LET GO and FOCUS ON WHAT FEELS GOOD!
When I say let go, I mean you have to let go of the outcome. “What will be, will be.” I hung on to that relationship and wanted even more power to control the outcome and it didn’t get better. My stomach was in knots most of the time. I had anxiety. I felt overwhelmed, I wanted the fairytale ending but it became even worse than before. Finally I sat by myself, closed my eyes and asked myself, “How would it feel to just let go?” I was panicked at first. If I let it go my life would seriously implode and the house I swear I was never going to move out of EVER would be gone. The financial security of two incomes, gone. The shared responsibility, gone. Division of assets, lawyers, house sale and lots of money spent to do so and above all of that, learning how to share and co-parent our toddler. This was crazy scary!
All logistical things aside though, how would I feel waking up on my own, not have constant nagging and fighting, removing my baby from an environment of a toxic relationship and finally live life on my terms?
FREE and PEACEFUL!
My story changed when I was able to accept that I could no longer live the way I was and I was deserving of such a better life. Heck, we both were. No matter what hoops needed to be jumped through, I could NOT live one day longer like I was. I changed the story.
I handed over trust and believed all would work out. I let go of control and started believing in what could be. There was no use thinking there was anything left. I knew in my heart and soul I did all I could and I walked away with a clear conscious knowing I am a beautiful soul who gives everything to what I invest in. Honouring myself and accepting that I just wasn’t who I used to be was hard but writing a new story of hope and possibility gave me a new sense of self and a determination to be myself fully and completely.
When my old story died, so did my old self. When you give yourself permission to open a new book full of blank pages, you give yourself the freedom to write a life you WANT to live and create a story that allows you to feel the way you want to feel each day. If I kept replaying over and over what happened in the past and thinking about the pain and heartbreak I lived day to day, I’d be horribly stuck in the madness and grief. I chose to send that old me and my old partner love instead, forgiving that which was MEANT to happen for us to be able to move on and find our happiness in the present.
Every day I have to choose to think a new thought or replace those old beliefs of not feeling good enough with evidential proof that I am. There are still many things I struggle with and am always identifying those old, ugly stories and beliefs with new ones that make me feel empowered, safe, loved and worthy.
So, let’s practice this:
Start with a feeling. How do you desire to feel? As an example, I want to feel love. Okay, how can you feel love right now? If you’re lucky, go snuggle with your pet, hug a loved one or do something that you love doing and get lost in the moment. Want to feel more love? Keep doing those things and make it a practice filling your own cup.
Want to feel more connected? Go into nature and walk, sit or lay-down in the grass. Stare up at the sky. Do meditation or yoga which connects you to yourself. Better yet, invite a close friend to experience these amazing things with you lifting you both up.
Want to do meaningful works that makes you feel lit up? Start small with your passions and make it a consistent effort to continue building up so you can share that light with others.
The more you make the effort to rewrite the story of who you are and ground yourself in living a life that true and authentic, honouring your values, beliefs and becoming a better human being to this world, the better your life gets and it manifests this incredible life story that we just won’t be able to put the book of your life down. It’s inspiring, uplifting and magnetic for others to follow suit.
When you’re ready, I encourage you to begin a new story and let the boundless opportunities lift you up to everything you’ve never thought possible but can in fact become your reality!
XOXO, Robin
